my kids mother putting me in child support bc'se i don't want to marry her. what should i do.?

Question

Also she makes about the same money I am, is it legal to have me pay her more than she's asking now $600 biwkly.

Answer 1

You aren't paying her, you are paying for YOUR child. If you aren't getting married, then you should being paying for the things your child needs. Children are expensive, and you pay regardless of how much money she makes, you're not paying her, you're paying for your child.



If you're worried she's asking too much, then go to court and get a judge to state how much you pay and that's the end of it. Then you won't have to worry about fighting how much you should pay.

Answer 2

Child Support payments are decided by the legal system. The mother of your child can not tell you how much you have to pay her. Contact your Friend of the Court through Family Division at your county courthouse and they will assign you someone to work with you on your case. If you go out of your way to try to be responsible for the care and welfare of your child, that will be looked upon favorably by the judge. Even if you both make the same amount of money, if she has full-custody of your little one, you will have to pay more child support. Going through the courts will also set up a visitation schedule so you can be part of your child's life. If she makes threats, find out the facts before you react. Do not marry her just because she is the mother of your child, but take full responsibility for your child. There are ways to be co-parents without being married. It is helpful to keep a journal listing the time you spend with your child plus keep a list of what you buy for your child (such as diapers, clothes, toys, doctor's visits, etc.) and how much you paid. Your child needs you to be the best father you can be. There are support groups for single fathers. See if you can find one in your area. It will be helpful to talk with people who have gone through or are currently going through the same thing as you.

Answer 3

The court will decide what you will pay. Children need the support of both parents and when one is absent from the home no amount of money will ever make up for that. When your child is a pre-teen-teen you will find out how much your not being in the same household affected him or her. Be Blessed And Think Long And Hard About Your Choice because your decision affects not only you.

Answer 4

Real men support their children. Either take custody or pay the money. If you were willing to sacrifice your happiness to give your child a better life, marry her and spend a lot of time reading to the child.



Is it too late to adopt the kid out? If it is white and wasn't born addicted to cocaine, there is a huge demand. You don't seem that interested in raising it. She must know her chances of finding a man who will marry her are better if she doesn't have any baggage from past flings. You might both be better off if you gave it away to someone who wanted it; you don't.

Answer 5

legally, if you are the biological father you must contribute to the child's support, whether or not you are married to its mother. If she makes the same money as you, remember to factor in the child's food and clothing.

Answer 6

The court decides on the child support payments. Usually 20% of your income 5% more for eack kid

Answer 7

Well depends on if you have been to court and it is mandatory for you to pay. If you want to fight it you can take her to court, but you need to think she might win so just pay her the money. 600. is cheaper than what a judge might make you pay so I wouldn't fight it.

Answer 8

pay it and build a honest, caring, open relationship with your child. What u will gain from that no amount of money could pay for. You've been blessed with a child - don't discount your blessings. Don't cheat your child.

Answer 9

The baby is yours too. You need to support the child too. There is no way what you are paying pays for everything your ex still has to pay alot too,

Answer 10

well do u love her and live with her thren no i dont think u should have to pay but if u are not with her and left her for another women or something like that u should have to pay 3000 a week

Answer 11

you just have to pay it, its very hard to raise kids period even just the physical and emotional factors of it, so the least you can do is help her deal with the financial part, you are 1/2 responsible

Answer 12

What you should do is post this question in a category that has something to do with what you are asking. Dining out doesn't fit the bill. Think.

Answer 13

pay the child support , duh